Grief & Bereavement Counseling

"Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through the experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired and success achieved." Helen Keller

The death of our spouse, parent, sibling or child can throw us into such strong emotions and chaos that we fear our lives will fall apart. We are often unprepared for the intensity of our feelings, and many families are unprepared to talk openly and directly about their experience.

Unlike depression, grief is a tunnel with light at the end. It is a natural reaction to loss whether it be due to death, divorce, or debilitating illness. Grief may look like depression on its face, but is a process which can be worked through to a closure. Your life will be changed forever, and you will never forget your loved one; but you can and will move on.

The cliche that "time heals all wounds" is only partiallly true. You need time, but you also need to actively grieve. There is a myth in our society that you should be over the loss in a year. On the other hand, the longer you stuff your feelings, especially with drugs and alcohol, the more time your period of bereavement will be.

Grief counseling gives you a safe place to address your personal experience without being told what you should feel, how long it should take, or how you should be getting over it. Families have so much difficulty grieving together they often experience disconnection and isolation from one another. Grief counseling can help heal these cracks, and give a family permission to talk among themselves. Sometimes you just need a professional who is outside your inner circle to give you a hand.

Also see Advanced Medical Directives

For GLBT Widowers

Last messed with May 27, 2010